Have you ever noticed how we categorize most phases of our children’s lives as negative? Of course, they begin as precious and innocent. But all too soon they enter the “terrible twos,” the “tyrannical threes,” become “squirrely” in junior high, turn “angst ridden in adolescence,” and then after college enter an extended “liminal state” as they wait to become fully formed adults. By the time they’re thirty, we hope they’re normal, functional adults who no longer need our money!
I wonder what we miss when we frame the development of our children in this way. Are we making the most of each phase of our children’s lives? Or are we simply tolerating them until they grow up?
We often do the same in our careers. Each job is a stepping stone to the next promotion, and we believe things will get better the higher we climb. Some people spend their entire careers waiting to get to a level that is finally fulfilling, but it’s always just out of their reach.
This is no way to live our lives or raise our children. Instead we need to embrace what each day offers. Otherwise, we’re destined to spend our lives waiting for something that never comes.
We begin our Sunday services by saying, “This is the day that the LORD has made; let us rejoice and be glad in it” (Psalm 118:24). Maybe we need to begin every day saying this. It may help us see the good we can embrace today rather than waiting for tomorrow.